Tuesday Grace Letters

Today's grace letter is to my future self as a mom.

Dear Yahan,

At last. The dream you've had for years is finally a reality. Being a natural planner, you have spent more time than necessary daydreaming about and planning your future. You knew being a mom wasn't going to be easy. But by now, you have probably had a few experiences that can attest the hard days of motherhood. Don't give up during those days. Even though they most likely won't show it, your kids need you, especially during their hardest moments when they can't express their need.

Throughout your childhood, there were moments where your parents hurt your heart. Don't hang on to those hurts. Forgive them but also strive to not pass on the same hard to your children. You're most likely going to have a busy career, but don't let that get in the way of spending time with your kids. Make time to support them at sporting events and performances. I know you love to sing, cook and craft with your loves. Embrace those passions and use them to help you grow closer to your kids. Sing loud and off key together, make a meal or just watch a movie during the weekends. Always be present in your kids' lives and grow closer to them. Ask about their hearts, not just about their day to day life. Love on them in any and every way possible.

Start new family traditions. Not many were established while you were growing up, but that trend doesn't have to continue. I know you've been mentally preparing some throughout your life, but don't be confined to that list. Traditions strengthen families, so don't be afraid to start them. Drink up the joys of the little moments, you never know when they will come to an end. Enjoy them while they last. Let go of the chains that being a planner and a worrier have trapped you in. Sometimes it's better to not worry about things that didn't go your way, especially the little things in life.

When it comes to discipline, remember that love is kind, and that a gentle answer can turn away wrath. Sometimes, especially in the heat of the moment, kindness will feel impossible. It's in those moments where kindness is needed most. When you deal with disobedience in the wrong way, don't be afraid to repent publicly and ask for forgiveness. Admitting to your kids you aren't perfect will deepen your relationships with them.

Last of all, don't worry. I know you tend to worry about stuff. No matter what struggles motherhood brings, it's all in God's hands. Learn to trust in Him. He has a better plan for your kids than you could ever dream of. Trust in his provision.

Sincerely,
Your high school self

Next week's letter will be to unbelievers in my life.